Sibling behavior, prayer requests

Oy, kids! We have a real pattern of behavior emerging with ours that I am overwhemed at the moment in knowing how to really break it. Naturally, brothers and sisters are going to argue and fight. Jackson has started hitting Hannah without even thinking about it. Now I'm not talking about beating her down or anything, and I'm not saying she's innocent in not hitting him, but at the same time, it is not acceptable behavior.

Two things bother me:
One, that he feels he can hit her and there not be consquences. He has been grounded, he has been spanked, he has had priviledges taken away, yet, it still happens. We need an additional approach to this. A lot of this comes from his temper. He has a great one, but I know he can keep it in check because he has had a number of instances this summer where he was the abused one, and he turned the other cheek. Why can't he understand that treating his sister in a like manner is wrong?

Two, Hannah has taken on the victim role. Is that the right term? She has come to think, even though she has seen him get in trouble, she would rather him still play with her and hit her, than to see him suffer the consequences of hitting her. He will slap her, I'll hear it from the other room, yet, she doesn't want him sent away and says it's ok although she is clearly not ok with a whelp on her leg, arm, back, wherever his hand managed to land at the time.

THIS, especially, concerns me. How do you teach a little girl to stand up for herself and to understand that even if it is your brother, abuse is NOT ok? Her heart is a thousand miles wide, she would do anything for anyone and give you the shirt off of her back. But I have got to figure out a way for her to understand that it is not ok for him to hit her. NOW, if we were on the playground and someone hurt her, though not adamant about it, she does expect the offender to suffer consequences, and understands that it is wrong, and why. But with Jackson- it's the opposite.

They are very close, yet they have no trouble parting from each other either. Overall, I'd say they have a very healthy relationship, except for the pattern of abuse. It concerns me in a way because Hannah is the only person he will treat like this, and because they are so close, it concerns me because when he grows up, I don't want him to grow up thinking it is ok to abuse the ones you love or are closest to, be it physically or verbally .. (or even passive aggressively.).

We need some prayer in this, will you pray for us?

I also have a decision I have been praying about, and it is not one that needs to be made for the immediate future, but I need some peace either way. Yes, no, or wait. Waiting is perfectly fine, I am just such a compulsive "wanna be in the know" type personality, especially when it is my life (lol) that I just need some peace on it. When the time is right, I will share what the decision is.

I also have a health issue going on. It is repeating, and I know how to treat it, but, I'd appreciate anyprayer I can get that it will heal quickly. Even though I know what it is and how to treat it, doesn't make it less painful. Not to mention I seem to be getting more headaches lately - I'm prone to migraines.

My aunt fell and broke her knee last week, if you think about her please say a prayer that she'll heal and recover quickly. Sh's an active 72 year old, I hate to think this will be what slows her down, so I'm praying for total recovery physically and emotionally. kwim?

I think that's my laundry list right now ;o)